Huntington Beach Matchmakers | How to Tell He’s Just a Fling

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You really like him and things seem to be going well. The chemistry is through the roof, and you can’t wait to take this relationship to the next level, but you have a gut feeling that something isn’t right. Well, you might not be too off the mark. Read on and discover the telltale signs to know whether he’s actually into you, or if he’s just a passing fling.

Today, our Huntington Beach matchmakers are going to show you how to tell he’s just a fling.

  1. He’s not thinking past the dating phase.


How much do you dislike when a guy drags out the dating phase of your relationship for months and months? We know that we can’t stand it, especially when the time apart fluctuates from weeks to a month. Horrible, right? At that point, this has turn into a casual relationship.

Luckily, this is a great way to tell he’s only looking for a fling. If the guy you’re seeing only wants to date you but doesn’t want to take things to the next level, then he’s only looking for a fling. The sooner you realize it, the better it will be for you to move on.

  1. He only texts when it suits him.


If the guy isn’t texting you during the day and only texting you at night, that’s bad. Sending you a midnight message which clearly has some ulterior motives isn’t a great sign he’s looking for something meaningful. The longevity of the relationship isn’t going to be built on midnight encounters. Communication is one of the most important aspects of the relationship. The communication must have substance. Midnight messages or “Are you up?” isn’t substance.

  1. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends.


Usually, if someone is interested in you for the long-term, he will bring you around his friends so you can meet the people who are the closest to him. Friends are super important, so taking that next step is crucial for a long-term relationship. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t bring you around his friends and you guys have been seeing each other for some time now, he’s just a fling.

  1. He doesn’t accept you on Facebook.


If your partner won’t accept your friend request on Facebook or other social media sites, it could mean that he’s trying to hide you or doesn’t want you to get to close to him. He could have pictures of other women and doesn’t want you to see them. If a guy is serious about you, he’ll have no problem adding you to his social media accounts.

  1. He talks “he” rather than “we.”


Now, we’re not talking about answers to questions like “What did you do over the weekend?” If you two are away, it’s only natural that things he does will be all by himself rather than the both of you. And that’s okay. You don’t have to be together all the time. However, if he never includes you in his plans and the two of you have been seeing each other for months, then he’s just a fling.

  1. He always arrives late to dates.


If this guy sets up dates with you and always shows up late, he isn’t the real deal.  A guy who is the real deal will never show up late because he respects your time. If your date arrives on time all the time, it shows that meeting you is a priority to him.

  1. There are gaps in communication.


Someone who likes you and wants to be in a real relationship with you will never leave you guessing where they stand. He will make efforts by staying in touch with you all the time through text messages, emails, or phone calls. If too much time passes between contact, you know this guy is just a dud.

So is he just a passing fling? How many of these red flags did you notice in your guy?

If you’re single and want to meet relationship-minded men in Orange County, contact our Huntington Beach matchmakers today and let us help you find true love. To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!