Newport Beach Matchmakers | 5 Signs He’s Only After Sex

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Unfortunately, not all men are going to be into you like you are into them.  Sometimes all their attention will fool you into believing they want to pursue a serious relationship, when all they really want to do is take off your clothes.  Ugh, this is the sad reality of dating today.

It’s gut-wrenching to realize that the man you told your friends and coworkers about was only after you for sex.  Being seen as an object isn’t fun.  Even though you could view it as a compliment, because it means you are very attractive, you definitely feel betrayed because he lied to you.  Being lied to and led on by a man can be heart shattering and disheartening.

Men should tell you how they feel and what they’re looking for before making you fall for them.  If you are sick and tired of getting taken advantage of by men who are only after you for sex, then it’s time you learn the top five signs he’s only after you for sex.

1. His Compliments Revolve Around Your Looks

You might think that a compliment is a compliment, right?  Well, you got it all wrong.  If your man is always complimenting about how sexy you look in those jeans, how beautiful your legs are when you wear a skirt, or how nice your behind has gotten since you started working out, then he’s only after you for sex.

If he wanted to have a serious relationship with you, he would also extend compliments that go beyond looks.  He would tell you that he loves spending time with you and that he can’t get enough of your laugh, your voice, and your awesome sense of humor.  Basically, if he’s only complimenting about your sexy looks, then he only has one thing on his mind, SEX!

2. He Turns Everything into Sex

It’s natural for couples to have a steamy conversation every once in a while, especially when you’re in the beginning stages of the relationship when you can barely keep your hands off each other.  But of course sex shouldn’t be the only thing you talk about.  If you’re telling him about your day and he steers the conversation into sex and gets close to you, then he’s clearly after sex.  He doesn’t want to hear about your day and doesn’t care to tell you about his.  Nope, he only wants to take off your clothes.

3. He Doesn’t Take You on Real Dates

If he considered you his legitimate girlfriend, he would have no problem showing you off to the world.  He would take you out to dinners, shopping, and even introduce you to his friends because he would want to let the world know how lucky he is to you have by his side.  If your dates have all consisted of Netflix and chill, that’s a huge red flag.  Inviting you to his house for a movie night isn’t a date.  This is far from a date, and you need to see it for what it really is.  This is an easy way to get you to the bedroom.

4. He Pressures You into Having Sex

If a man sees you as a potential girlfriend, he’ll have no problem waiting until you’re ready to take the next step.  He would never pressure you to have sex or do something you didn’t feel comfortable doing.  So if your new man is pressuring you to have sex, then sex is the only thing he’s thinking about.  If you want to test him to see if he’s going to stick around, hold off on having sex and see what happens.  This will make the men who are only after a hookup run for the hills.

5. You Don’t Know Much About Him

If he’s only after you for sex, then he’s not going to go through the troubles of telling you about himself.  You won’t know his deep secrets, his biggest fears, or any of his childhood memories.  He’ll talk but mainly about sex.  So if you don’t know the name of his siblings, the name of his dog, where he grew up, or even what he does for a living, then it’s clear he’s only after you for sex.

The trouble with dating today is that you can never know someone’s intentions.  Use these five helpful tips from our Newport Beach matchmakers to figure out where you stand.  If you realize you’ve been overlooking these red flags lately, it’s time to take the blinders off and see this situation for what it truly is.  You deserve so much.

If you’re ready to meet relationship-minded men in Orange County, contact our Newport Beach matchmakers and let us make the introductions you deserve.  To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!